There is a quote in English, “A tree is known by its fruit; a man by his deeds. A good deed is never lost; he who sows courtesy reaps friendship, and he who plants kindness gathers love, Saint Basil" by witnessing the fruits we can understand what type of tree it is and how it was nurtured, the same goes with relationship between parents and kids,
In today world, parents are so busy nurture their kids, forgetting that kids are not tools to show case to the world around about who they are (even if they are not) but they are kids, not everyone wishes are fulfilled and not everyone desires takes shape, parents in the early age or when they were young, unable to achieve their dreams and desires, want to fulfill those half done wishes through their kids and in pursuit of finding their happiness they ruin the happiness and the child in the kid,
Once we crosses the border of our own dreams then we start to realize good or bad, right or wrong, and starts the blame game on each other and society, but truth is, we create so much pressure and unwanted burden on kids, they crumble and become disoriented losing the ability to judge right or wrong, good or bad, most of the time, nurturing of parents is the root cause for the child to suffer,
Even if parents realize about their kids, they promote their wrongs to rights because of their fallen dreams and desires of yester-years, we should understand, tat with time the ways of nurturing change, what was valid few years ago will not be valid now or what is valid now wont be of any use in near future, we think we are giving best as per our knowledge but our best can be worst for the kid, know them, understand them and care for them and not for your needs,
But love, care and knowledge will always be valid no matter what age and time we travel, those who sows courtesy reaps kindness and whose who plant kindness gathers love,
Let not our dreams be kids dreams, let us not try to overcome through kids the weaknesses we own, the trees that are slow to grow generally bears the best fruits, take time, no hurry, cherish the kind in you and the kids you have,
Stay blessed